Hey there! I’m back for more engagement season and wedding updates!! I’m so excited for today’s post, because the Type A in me is thrilled that as of today, these posts are caught up to live time. Today marks the end of month 8 of being engaged, and that means we have only TWO months left until our big day, the start of our forever journey as husband and wife. Months seven and eight were marked by details galore.
In month seven, I went with my mom to find the perfect MOB dress! She’s going to look fabulous and beautiful. Let me just take a minute to say, this wedding wouldn’t be what it’s going to without my mom and my dad. My mom has poured her heart and soul into every detail, and I’m not sure I’ll ever find a way to thank her or help her get back all the nights of missed sleep. If y’all have any ideas on that, send them my way!
We were able to pick up more of our date nights as I took more control of my schedule and quit over committing to working extra shifts. Important lessons learned here! Too many extra shifts means an empty tank, which means a crotchety me craving quiet and stillness. I had nothing left, especially to pour into our relationship, and we definitely suffered. We are back to weekly date nights as much as possible, and I can already tell a difference in our relationship.
Onto month eight, which was an extremely busy wedding month. We had a date night with baked spaghetti to celebrate 102 days to go. Really, we were celebrating 100 days, but we both had to work that night, so we went with two days early. I like it better that way anyhow! It’s way more special to me that we took time to just celebrate how far we’ve come and what’s coming next than it being on the exact right day. Any day is the perfect day for a celebration in my eyes.
We celebrated my birthday with my parents by going to the UNC vs. Duke football game in Chapel Hill. I have always wanted to go to home game and this seemed like the perfect time to go. It was a beautiful day, filled with tailgating and lots of laughs! I loved every second.
I headed home for a weekend to go shopping with my mom for some special white dresses for our upcoming wedding celebrations. I am so excited for all that is to come, but I am trying so hard to stay grounded and present in each day that passes. Anyone have any tips for staying present as the big day gets closer and closer? It was so nice to spend time with my parents and relax at home for the weekend. There’s nothing quite like that for me, and I’m so grateful I’m close enough to go to High Point when I want to (or need to, let’s be honest).
The next weekend I went to Charleston, SC to celebrate my bachelorette party, and Josh went to Charlotte with his friends for his bachelor weekend. My sister planned the best, most special, relaxing weekend I could have asked for complete with quality time, laughs, beach yoga, and downtown Charleston. I keep closing my eyes and taking myself back to that beach when I get stressed. Yoga with the waves crashing in the background is my perfect peace!
Later that week, I headed to High Point, and I finally got to meet Carla, of Carla White beauty. I. Love. Her. One thing I love most about several of my wedding vendors is their willingness to tell me about their marriages including past mistakes, what’s important, their best advice from lessons they’ve learned themselves, and to get on my level and really pour into my marriage. I sat in Carla’s chair for a hour and a half and she talked to me about the Lord, family, friends, her relationship, and I honestly can’t thank her enough. She does amazing hair and make up too, but what I’ll always remember is the way she took time and energy to build me up for marriage in the most positive way. That afternoon was a very special time as my mom, dad, and I went to do bridal portraits. This is a good ole southern wedding tradition and one I’ve always known we would do. The same photographer who took my mom’s wedding portraits took mine, and I love that we will always share that together. I’m so glad that my dad wanted to come with us! He is the most tender-hearted person I know, and it was really special to have him there the first time I saw myself as a bride!
We wrapped up month eight with a wedding planning day in High Point yesterday. Josh and I went to the bakery and picked out his groom’s cake for the rehearsal dinner. We did some odds and end errands around town for the wedding and picked up the final piece to the invitations. I am so excited to send out the invites and start getting RSVPs back. I think things will really start to feel real at that point. We finished up the day with our coordinator who has been such an angel during this time. She has thought of everything and we are so grateful for her!
I cannot believe my next post will really be month NINE out of TEN. I have said it a million times that if I could have thrown a wedding together in three months I would have, because all I want is to be married to Josh. But, as in everything, God’s timing is perfect. This has been the perfect amount of time for us to plan our dream day at our pace, while allowing us time to really prepare our hearts and souls for what we are doing. My biggest piece of advice to anyone reading that’s engaged or wants to be or even if you are single, is to take the time to prepare your relationship. Josh and I have been together almost EIGHT years, and this has been the sweetest time together. We have read books, had long car talks, had lots of fun, and learned a whole bunch about each other. It has taken time, and we’ve had to be intentional about it because we are really busy, but I don’t regret a single second. Those TV shows and Facebook will still be there, but you’ll never get your engagement season back, so make the most of it while you have it!